lucy wightman

That is a hard question. I let go of my first husband due to major life differences(I wanted kids he said no, I believed in God he said no, he still liked dope, I said no). I have not let go of any important relationships since that time. I have made just a few close friends and I have had several of them for 40 years now. There is nothing any of them could do to make me let go. I get mad once in awhile but I try and talk it out and I have to forgive a bunch of stuff(I am great at this) but I never, ever let go. I guess that if it became totally non reciprocal for a long, long time(a year?) I would probably let go because at that point I might think that I was a become a bother. Thought provoking..

I have never experienced letting go of an important friend, and can't imagine there would EVER be a circumstance where I would, even my ex! I'm rather forgiving and hope that we could get through any rough patches. I have a lot of friends, but there are a half dozen or so that I will not leg go ... I hope they feel the same way.

I guess I would have to think about that for a while, but instinctually I would say that if a person were overly needy, and the relationship were one-sided and energy daraining, or the person was a psychopath, then i would have to let go.
As far as most friends go...I have many, ranging from childhood to the present. I have many friends where I live now. Most friendships I keep long term. I would do pretty much anything for most of them if they needed me to.
I had one friend years ago that I really needed to let go of, long story but she was a nasty backstabber, and in that circumstance it was right. Like I said, if someone is a psychopath...there's only so much I can tolerate.
I think the closest friends I have are the ones with whom I share and grow with. Friendships can change, but the bottom line is you have to know who to trust.

Being that friendships are two-sided....sometimes they can end up one-sided. I am big on friendships that can "flex"....people can need space, or not see eye to eye all the time....friends who care enough about one another and be flexible for/with someone they care about are good friend material. Things aren't "peachy" all the time and relationships that survive the good and the bad are something good in my book. As for "causes" to end a friendship? Well, someone whom I had been friends with for many years went after my "ex"....yep, I ended the friendship....they are still together. Trust is huge for me....without it what do you have? "Needy" can have many definitions....but with a good friend in need....I do my best to try and fulfill the needs as best as I can....for the love of my friendship.

Sometimes people have more needs than one can fill. A close friend in need? Whole different ballgame.

It would have to be something that hurts me, like recurring deliberate deceit and dishonesty that affects my life. And even then, I would probably try to work through it with that person. However, if everything is totally one-sided, then there is nothing to work through and I would have a hard time giving that person chance after chance to hurt me.

I don't have tons of friends. Lots of friendly acquaintances, but ten or less people who honestly mean the world to me. I would have a hard time letting any of them go, but right now, I may have to with one of them. It's the worst feeling in the world....for me.